🕯️ IFS and Healthy Boundaries

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Oct 30
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Healthy boundaries in IFS aren’t rigid fences — they’re living agreements between parts. They protect connection, not prevent it.

A people-pleasing part may say yes out of fear of conflict.
A controlling part may overprotect, believing openness invites harm.
A guilty part may collapse boundaries to avoid being “selfish.”

IFS helps these protectors find balance by asking:

“What are you protecting by saying yes?”
“What are you afraid would happen if we said no?”

When Self leads, boundaries stop being reactions and become clarity. They emerge naturally from compassion — firm yet kind, open yet discerning.

In IFS, healthy boundaries are not about keeping others out. They are the shape love takes when every part knows it’s safe to speak its truth.

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