🕯️ When a Firefighter Hijacks a Session

A firefighter hijacking a session is a common occurrence in IFS, especially when deep emotions are surfacing. Firefighters step in when the system feels vulnerable, and their job is to stop pain from flooding. Their tactics — whether they involve sudden outbursts, dissociation, or distraction — can feel overwhelming or even counterproductive to the process.

When a firefighter hijacks a session, it’s not because they want to derail the work. They are simply reacting to the perceived threat of overwhelming emotion. They believe that if they don’t intervene, something inside will break or explode.

The key here is not to force the firefighter to stop. Instead, take a moment to acknowledge their protective intention: “I see that you’re trying to protect me. Thank you for stepping in.” This allows the part to feel seen and appreciated for its efforts.

Next, invite curiosity: “What do you fear would happen if you didn’t do this job right now?” You might hear that the firefighter is protecting an exile or keeping pain from surfacing. Their fear is not about the current moment but about something deeper — an unresolved wound they’re trying to keep hidden.

Once the firefighter feels seen and understood, they’re often willing to step back. The session can then continue, with the understanding that the protection they offer will always be available when needed, but it doesn’t need to control the process anymore.

In IFS, every part is respected. Even a firefighter hijacking a session is an invitation to deeper connection and understanding.