🕯️ Fleshing Out IFS Questions

When you’re helping a part come into focus, you don’t need fancy language — just open-ended, sensory, curious questions that help it take shape. Here are some gentle ways to do that:

• “What do you notice about it — any images, sensations, or emotions?”

• “If it had a texture, color, or temperature, what might it be like?”

• “Does it feel close to you or far away?”

• “What’s its posture — small, large, collapsed, rigid?”

• “If it had a sound, a word, or a movement, what might that be?”

  
  

Once the shape begins to form, deepen with relational curiosity:

• “What does this part want you to know?”

• “How does it feel about you being here?”

• “Does it remember when it first took on this role?”

• “How does it feel toward the other parts in your system?”

  
  

Fleshing out questions help the part feel known beyond its behavior. You’re not interrogating; you’re noticing. Every detail — even the faintest color or whisper — is a piece of its story.

As the picture grows clearer, the energy of Self naturally rises. The more you understand the part, the less it has to act out to be seen.