🕯️ IFS and Gratitude

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Oct 30
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Gratitude in IFS isn’t forced positivity — it’s the natural warmth that arises when parts feel safe, seen, and supported.

A pleasing part may perform gratitude to avoid appearing ungrateful.
A spiritual part may demand constant appreciation to stay “good.”
A cynical part may roll its eyes, protecting against disappointment.

IFS welcomes them all and asks:

“Who inside resists gratitude?”
“Who tries to force it?”

True gratitude grows when no one is coerced into feeling it. It’s what unfolds when protectors realize they don’t have to guard every moment of joy.

In IFS, gratitude isn’t a moral command; it’s a relational state. It appears on its own when the system relaxes — when every part, even the bitter and the tired, feels there’s finally room to rest.

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