🕯️ IFS and Holding Space

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Oct 21
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Holding space in IFS isn’t about fixing, analyzing, or soothing—it’s about staying. It’s the Self’s quiet willingness to be with whatever arises without turning away.

A caretaker part may rush to comfort.

A fixer part may offer advice to stop the pain

.A fearful part may go numb, afraid of what might surface.

IFS helps each of them trust that presence itself is enough.

“Can we just stay with this part?”
“Can we let it know it doesn’t have to change right now?”

Holding space means the system feels containment without control. Pain can unfold at its own pace because it knows it won’t be abandoned.

In IFS, holding space is sacred—it’s how the body learns that safety isn’t the absence of pain, but the presence of someone who stays.

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