🕯️ IFS and Regulation

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Oct 29
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Regulation in IFS isn’t something you force—it’s something that happens when the system feels safe. It’s the nervous system’s way of saying, we’re together now.

A hyperaroused part may keep the body on alert, scanning for danger.
A numbing part may pull energy away, shutting down to survive.
A caretaking part may regulate others’ emotions to keep peace.

IFS doesn’t demand calm. It asks with gentleness:

“Who’s helping us manage right now?”
“What are you afraid would happen if you let go?”

As Self’s presence deepens, regulation becomes relational. The body doesn’t need to be tamed; it learns it can rest.

In IFS, regulation is less about control and more about connection—each part learning that safety isn’t silence; it’s being held.

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