🕯️IFS and Resentment

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Oct 28
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Resentment in IFS is the voice of a protector who’s been holding the ledger of unfairness for too long. It rises when parts feel unseen, unappreciated, or burdened beyond consent.

A loyal part may simmer with bitterness after years of overgiving.
A silenced part may seethe because its truth was never allowed.
A boundary-keeper may hold resentment as proof that it matters.

IFS invites curiosity instead of guilt:

“Who in me is still keeping score?”
“What pain are they protecting underneath the anger?”

When Self listens without dismissing, resentment begins to soften. The parts discover that what they truly wanted wasn’t revenge — it was recognition.

In IFS, resentment transforms not by forgetting the past but by freeing the parts who still live there.

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