🕯️IFS and Secure Attachment

Secure attachment, in IFS, isn’t an achievement — it’s a felt knowing inside the system that connection is safe. It’s what happens when enough parts trust that love won’t disappear when they show their truth.

• A vigilant part may still check for rejection.

• A dependent part may cling, fearing loss.

• A distant part may hold back, protecting from pain.

IFS doesn’t force security — it cultivates it.

• “Which parts already know how to trust?”

• “Which parts still remember love as risk?”

As Self builds steady relationship with every part, the inner world becomes a model for outer bonds. Others no longer determine safety; the system carries it from within.

In IFS, secure attachment isn’t earned through perfection — it’s discovered through presence.