🕯️IFS and Self-Esteem

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Oct 28
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Self-esteem in IFS isn’t a measurement — it’s a relationship between Self and the parts that doubt their worth. It’s not built by affirmations, but by understanding the stories that shaped those doubts.

A striving part may chase praise to feel valuable.
A shamed part may insist, I’ll never be enough.
A critical part may keep confidence low to prevent arrogance or rejection.

IFS doesn’t fight these parts; it listens:

“Who in me believes I’m unworthy?”
“Where did it learn that?”

As Self meets each voice with compassion, esteem stops being a fragile construct — it becomes a steady knowing that worth was never lost, only covered.

In IFS, self-esteem is not about liking yourself — it’s about seeing every part as sacred, even the ones that forgot their light.

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