🕯️What Is the IFS Model?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) begins with a simple yet radical truth: you are not one thing. You are many — an inner family made of parts, each with its own feelings, beliefs, and intentions. And beneath them all lives something deeper — your Self.

Parts carry the history of your life. Some protect, others hold pain, some lead, some hide. None are bad. Even the parts that cause chaos or shame are doing their best to protect the system from what once felt unbearable.

IFS doesn’t aim to get rid of parts or fix them. It helps you build relationship with them. When they feel seen and understood, they begin to relax. They learn that the Self — the calm, compassionate core of you — can lead.

An IFS session often begins with curiosity: “What’s happening inside right now?” From there, the model unfolds gently — noticing, befriending, understanding, and, eventually, healing the burdens parts have carried.

IFS is not about control or perfection. It’s about connection. It reminds us that every part has a reason, every emotion has intelligence, and healing comes not from exile, but from inclusion.

You are not broken into pieces. You are a whole system, learning how to come home to itself.

🕯️