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A gentle Taoist landscape with flowing water winding through quiet valleys, symbolizing humility, softness, and non-competition as taught in Chapter 8.

Tao Te Ching - Chapter 8

Chapter 8 teaches that the highest goodness moves like water—humble, gentle, and without competition. Through the IFS lens, this softness mirrors Self-energy: steady, receptive, and naturally aligned, allowing protectors to soften and life to flow with ease.

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Back view of a woman with short, curly gray hair seated in a comfortable chair near a sunlit window. Surrounded by books, plants, and personal photographs, she appears quietly reflective in a warm home setting, representing Bronnie Ware's work exploring the life lessons and regrets commonly shared by people nearing the end of life.

🥀 Module 2 — Who Is Bronnie Ware? | Deathbed Regrets Course

A free course by Everything IFS Academy on Bronnie Ware, the unlikely founder of deathbed regret knowledge: follow her path from soul-starving banking work into palliative caregiving with no qualifications, living in the homes of the dying through their last three to twelve weeks. Discover the 2009 blog post on Inspiration and Chai that reached three million readers in a year, the 2012 bestseller The Top Five Regrets of the Dying translated into more than thirty languages, an

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An older man sits alone indoors with his face buried in his hands, his posture heavy with distress and reflection. The softly blurred background and subdued lighting emphasize the emotional weight of regret, loss, and unresolved life choices often explored in discussions of deathbed regrets.

🥀Module 3 — The Anatomy of Regret | Deathbed Regrets Course

A free course by Everything IFS Academy on the anatomy of regret: meet the counterfactual emotion, the mind holding two lives side by side and finding the real one wanting, plus the classic study naming regret the second most common emotion after love. Learn the three machines through Theo's absent years: regret says I wish it had gone differently, guilt says I did something wrong, shame says I am something wrong. Then discover the values mechanism through Marisol's unrecorde

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A woman undergoing cancer treatment rests in a hospital bed, lost in thought. Above her, two vivid memories appear: one shows a painful argument with a loved one, representing regret over actions taken, while the other shows a missed opportunity to reconnect before someone walked away, representing regret over actions not taken. The image illustrates the difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction at the end of life.

🥀 Module 4 — Regrets of Action and Regrets of Inaction | Deathbed Regrets Course

A free course by Everything IFS Academy on the two species of regret: learn why the regrets of the dying almost all begin I wish I had, through the landmark Cornell research of Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvec and the temporal pattern, actions burn short term while inactions dominate the long run. Explore why action regrets close and inaction regrets stay open forever, the cross-cultural evidence from China, Japan, and Russia, Davidai and Gilovich's ideal self versus ought

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