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A free IFS Academy course on the five stages of dying from the Death and Dying Series: the framework Elisabeth Kübler-Ross drew from her interviews with dying patients, each stage taught in its own full lesson, a bonus lesson on anxiety, the stage she never named, and a closing lesson on the stages in motion. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on anxiety, the missing stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: why anxiety never made the list of five, the distinct fears that only look like one, fear of dying versus fear of death, the waves and the 3 a.m. shift, the proximity finding, and what genuinely settles each fear. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on acceptance, the final stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: her actual description of the stage as nearly void of feeling, the line between acceptance and resignation, the lengthening sleep and shrinking circle, decathexis and the held hand, why families arrive later than the dying, and fighting to the end as a valid way to die. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on living with the five stages of dying from the Death and Dying Series: how the stages actually move through real months, hope as the thread through all five and what it becomes when it stops meaning cure, the stages as vocabulary rather than homework, out-of-sync families, the model's honest standing, and where hospice, counselors, and chaplains fit. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on depression, the fourth stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: the two depressions and how to tell them apart, reactive depression and its itemized losses, preparatory grief as the road to acceptance, why cheering up helps one and harms the other, unafraid silence, and the line where professional help genuinely helps. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on bargaining, the third stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: the private deals struck with God, fate, or the self, the anatomy of a bargain, the deadline pattern and the patient with the second son, the perfect-patient deal, the guilt hiding under some bargains, and what bargaining quietly admits. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on anger, the second stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: the why-me protest, displacement and how the rage finds its targets, envy of the living, real grievances versus borrowed targets, grief wearing armor, and the observation about being heard that quiets the storm. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn

A free IFS Academy course on denial, the first stage of dying, from the Death and Dying Series: the buffer that releases unbearable news in survivable doses, the shapes denial takes, partial denial and the rhythm of knowing and not-knowing, the forgotten companion called isolation, and the two mistakes people around the dying make. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on Elisabeth Kübler-Ross from the Death and Dying Series: the two-pound triplet who defied her father, the butterflies carved into the walls at Maidanek, the Chicago seminars where dying patients became the teachers, the 1969 book that changed medicine, and her own long, honest dying. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on the five stages of dying from the Death and Dying Series: what the famous framework actually is, who it was really written for, the Chicago seminars and the 1969 book it grew from, the five stages named, and why they were never meant to be a staircase. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.