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Start learning the core concepts and relationship skills behind Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the world’s leading approaches to love, attachment, and emotional connection. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy teaches EFT in clear, everyday language, covering attachment bonds, negative cycles, pursuers and withdrawers, emotional needs, the EFT Tango, attachment injuries, and relationship repair. Every lesson also includes an optional EFT practice to help you

Learn how to use EFT skills in everyday relationships, including catching the negative cycle, finding softer emotions, naming attachment needs, emotional repair, secure bonding, and returning to connection after conflict. In this final lesson, you’ll explore how EFT helps couples solve everyday problems, strengthen emotional safety, build lasting connection rituals, and repair relationship ruptures more quickly. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy also includes an EFT

Learn how EFT understands attachment injuries, the deep relationship wounds that form when a partner is emotionally absent during moments of greatest need. In this lesson, you’ll explore attachment injuries, emotional abandonment, trust repair, forgiveness, bonding repair, emotional responsiveness, and how EFT helps couples heal painful relationship ruptures. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy also includes an EFT practice at the end of the lesson to help you begin a

Learn the two major EFT change events that help relationships move from disconnection toward secure emotional bonding. In this lesson, you’ll explore withdrawer re-engagement, pursuer softening, vulnerable reaching, emotional responsiveness, bonding moments, enactments, and the EFT process of reach, respond, and receive. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy also includes an EFT practice at the end of the lesson to help you begin applying these relationship skills in ev

Learn the five moves of the EFT Tango, the core sequence Emotionally Focused Therapy uses to turn conflict into emotional connection. In this lesson, you’ll explore present-moment awareness, affect assembly, emotional deepening, enactments, vulnerable communication, attachment bonding, and relationship repair through the EFT Tango process. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy also includes an EFT practice at the end of the lesson to help you begin applying these skills

Learn the EFT deepening tools that help vulnerable emotions safely come forward in close relationships. In this lesson, you’ll explore RISSSC, heightening, empathetic conjecture, emotional slowing, softening conflict, and how EFT creates the conditions for deeper emotional connection and attachment repair. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy also includes an EFT practice at the end of the lesson to help you begin applying these skills in everyday relationships.

Free Course by Everything IFS Academy | Therapeutic Modalities Series Module 9 — Attachment Needs and Longings Underneath the soft feeling lies one more thing, and it may be the most important of all: the need. A frightened or lonely feeling is always a feeling about something, a signal pointing toward something wanted. EFT calls that wanted thing an attachment need, and learning to hear it beneath criticism, silence, and fear is what turns understanding a relationship into c

A free IFS Academy course on raw spots in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): what a raw spot is, the tender attachment sensitivities that flare out of proportion when touched, where raw spots come from in childhood and in past and present relationships, how a raw spot fires the negative cycle when two sore places collide, and how naming a raw spot makes it visible. Every lesson ends with an Emotionally Focused Therapy practice so you can begin applying the skill.

A free IFS Academy course on primary and secondary emotions in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): the two layers of feeling, the loud reactive surface emotions like anger, frustration, criticism, and numbness, and the softer primary emotions underneath like fear, hurt, loneliness, shame, and longing, plus why the surface hides the core and why the soft feeling is what reconnects two people. Every lesson ends with an Emotionally Focused Therapy practice so you can begin applyi

Free Course by Everything IFS Academy | Therapeutic Modalities Series Module 5 — Pursuers and Withdrawers A dance takes two, and the same is true of the negative cycle, the repeating loop a couple keeps landing in. This lesson turns from the pattern itself to the two roles partners often fall into when the bond feels shaky. EFT calls them the pursuer and the withdrawer. Learning to recognize these roles, in oneself and in a partner, and to understand the very different fear d

A free IFS Academy course on the negative cycle and the three Demon Dialogues in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): how couples get trapped in a self-feeding cycle, the dance, plus the three patterns Find the Bad Guy, the Protest Polka (demand-withdraw), and Freeze and Flee, and the EFT reframe that the cycle, not the partner, is the enemy. Every lesson ends with an Emotionally Focused Therapy practice so you can begin applying the skill.

A free IFS Academy course on attachment and the A.R.E. bond in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): how adult love is an attachment bond, the partner as a safe haven and secure base, the primal panic that fires when the bond feels threatened, and the three ingredients of a secure bond, Accessible, Responsive, and Engaged. Every lesson ends with an Emotionally Focused Therapy practice so you can begin applying the skill.

A free IFS Academy course on who Sue Johnson is, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): the British-born psychologist who grew up in an English pub, co-developed EFT with Leslie Greenberg, grounded it in John Bowlby's attachment theory, wrote the bestselling Hold Me Tight, and received the Order of Canada. Every lesson ends with an Emotionally Focused Therapy practice so you can begin applying the skill.

Learn the core foundations of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and why relationships get stuck in painful repeating cycles. In this lesson, you’ll explore attachment bonds, emotional safety, pursuer-withdrawer dynamics, primary and secondary emotions, raw spots, attachment needs, the EFT Tango, A.R.E., and the three stages of EFT. You’ll also begin learning how to identify the negative cycle instead of blaming either partner. This free course from EverythingIFS Academy inclu