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A free IFS Academy course on legacy projects for the dying from the Death and Dying Series: fifteen lessons covering the legacy letter, future-dated messages, life story telling, voice and video recordings, photographs, recipes, handmade keepsakes, heirlooms, words of repair, living legacies, digital legacy, and the farewell in your own words. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on what legacy projects are from the Death and Dying Series: what makes a legacy deliberate, why the work serves the dying person as much as the family, the dignity therapy research, the ethical will tradition, hospice legacy programs, and the death doula movement, plus a map of every project family ahead. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on choosing and shaping a legacy project from the Death and Dying Series: the Three Matching Questions, the three project sizes (table, lap, and bed projects), starting smaller than feels meaningful, the perfectionism trap, borrowing other hands while keeping authorship, and the keeper-and-instructions principle. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on the ethical will and legacy letter from the Death and Dying Series: the document of values, lessons, gratitude, blessings, and family stories, the ancient tzava'ot tradition behind it, the prompts and ten-minute brainstorm that defeat the blank page, one letter versus many, and the written, recorded, and layered forms. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on letters and messages for future moments from the Death and Dying Series: milestone letters written to the feeling of the day, birthday messages through the years and the honest math of how many is enough, open-when letters, the letter to a partner, writing to children who will grow up without you, and the labeling, keeper, and master-list system that guarantees arrival. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working

:A free IFS Academy course on telling your life story from the Death and Dying Series: why life review eases the teller, Harvey Chochinov's dignity therapy research and the generativity document, the adapted question framework, the StoryCorps-style recorded interview, the one-question-a-week model, memoir in fragments, and photographs used as story keys. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on voice and video legacy recordings from the Death and Dying Series: why the voice is what families lose first, audio messages and what to say into them, reading stories aloud and recordable storybooks, video without performance, recordings of ordinary life, heartbeat recordings, rescuing saved voicemails, and the file and backup habits that keep it all findable. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with wha

A free IFS Academy course on photographs and family history from the Death and Dying Series: the unlabeled box and the naming only one person can do, the three-pile triage, soft-pencil annotation and the one-line story, the handwritten album and the photo book, scanning routes and the grandchild-scans-person-narrates move, and the family tree with its stories attached. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

Free Course by Everything IFS Academy | Death and Dying Series Module 8 — Recipes, Food, and Family Traditions In most families there is at least one dish that is not really food. It is a person, in casserole form. This lesson teaches the legacy work of the family table and everything that surrounds it: the recipe collection and why the handwriting matters as much as the ingredients, the craft of pinning down recipes that exist only as a pinch and a glug, the cooking video th

A free IFS Academy course on handmade legacy keepsakes from the Death and Dying Series: hand molds and fingerprint jewelry made at the bedside in minutes, preserving the handwriting, memory quilts and bears from clothing chosen now with the reasons recorded, made-by-hand gifts sized honestly, locks of hair offered as gifts, and the borrowed hands that can craft all of it. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on heirlooms, belongings, and gifts for the future from the Death and Dying Series: giving while living and why the handed-over watch beats the inherited one, the story attached to every object, the four moves of choosing who gets what without wounding, gifts set aside for future occasions, the memory box, and the merciful work of releasing. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on words of repair and reconciliation from the Death and Dying Series: Ira Byock's Four Things That Matter Most, the repair letter and its three moves, the unsent letter and its three completions, peace without reconciliation when a tie will not mend, words for the people who cannot be reached, and releasing old narratives. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on living legacies from the Death and Dying Series: memorial trees and gardens directed from a lawn chair, legacy benches, charitable gifts and memorial funds, the ordinary-family scholarship, collections given to the hands that will use them, the skill taught forward in one recorded afternoon, and acts of kindness launched entirely from bed. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on your digital legacy from the Death and Dying Series: the archive already on the phone and the rescue evening that saves it, Facebook's legacy contact, Apple's Legacy Contact and access key, Google's Inactive Account Manager, the memorialize-or-delete judgment, the one-page where-digital-things-live note, and the optional last post. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on the farewell in your own words from the Death and Dying Series: why authoring the goodbye comforts in both directions, the self-written obituary and its four-part craft, the letter to be read aloud built on gratitude, one story, and one blessing, the chosen music and readings, and the recorded message with its honest counsel. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.

A free IFS Academy course on putting a legacy plan together from the Death and Dying Series: the time-short triage and why the voice, the short letter, and the photo names come first, the one-good-hour session that feeds several legacies at once, handing off unfinished projects as finished ones, the plan on one page, and letting done be enough. Every lesson ends with an IFS and parts work exercise so you can begin working with what you learn.